I don’t normally get too personal in these blogs, but heck – I preach authenticity and think I do a decent job of it, so I didn’t want to stop short now…
I got dumped Monday night.
It wasn’t a very long relationship so it wasn’t some earth-shattering event, but hey, it’s never fun. And when it catches you by surprise, it sometimes can take a day or two to get back to “normal”.
Anyway, I bring it up for 2 reasons:
1) because I like to share the difficult times as much as the good times with you guys, because I didn’t start Solopreneur Grind to be like a lot of the other content ie. happy Instagram pictures of me counting cash, popping bottles and driving Lambos
2) I’ve been dealing with the interplay of personal and professional life, which is a topic I like to cover in-depth
What I mean by #2 is that it can be even harder to deal with personal struggles as a solopreneur when you don’t have an office to go to, colleagues to rely on, or just the ability to have a sick day and do nothing.
Sure, I could call my own sick day and do nothing, but it’s easy to fall down a rabbit hole and if I take time off, my business stops dead in its tracks.
Luckily I tend to find work therapeutic, mostly because it takes your mind off of other things and keeps you motivated, so it’s usually a good thing to do when going through any kind of tough times.
But when it comes to relationships, family struggles, etc. that can be more emotional, it’s also important to take some time to express those emotions in whatever way you need to.
Suppressing them for too long will just delay the inevitable.
As usual, it’s a tough balance…
For me? I’m just getting back to work as usual, and spending extra time on self-care through things like meditation, exercise, time with friends, chats with family/friends, etc.
Having a great support system is also one of the best remedies.
And if you’re going through some tough personal stuff as well (doesn’t have to be a breakup), feel free to let me know (@solopreneurgrind on Insta). Sometimes just typing it out to someone and getting it off your chest can make all the difference, and I’d be happy to give you my thoughts or well wishes if you want them.
Another really important thing to keep in mind when you’re going through tough times (which can be quite often as a solopreneur), is to keep moving forward. I was listening to a motivational pump-up youtube video this morning during my workout…
It was one of those mashups of motivational speeches from a variety of cool dudes with “inspiring” music in the background.
And there was one line that really hit me.
You know something has some meaning when you’re listening to/watching a 10+ minute track and it just sticks out like a sore thumb.
It also helped that the person who said it was Tony Robbins – he may not be the one who initially came up with it, but there was no mistaking his voice (love him or hate him, the guy knows how to make a speech!).
So simple, yet so true… and so fitting for me right now.
It’s easy, especially as a solopreneur, to get mentally “stuck”. To be in the grind for so long you don’t see the big picture, to lose faith in what you’re doing, to get lonely spending long hours alone.
You start focusing on external factors or things that you are or aren’t accomplishing and rely on that for your happiness… or lack thereof.
And it’s easy to forget things like the simple equation above.
One way to happiness is progression… in its simplest form, just doing stuff. Accomplishing things. Meeting targets, or deadlines, or goals.
And you can only do the above by taking action.
If you aren’t or feel like you can’t, it may be because you don’t know what you should progress toward – and that’s okay.
Go find it.
Go find your new business idea.
Go get a new job.
Go start that side gig.
Go, go, go.
Progress, progress, progress.
I’m not normally this passionate, but hey, when it hits, it hits. Hope this helps and don’t forget to join the email list to get content like this to your inbox every single Friday.